Even on glorious days, it is only when the sun goes down that you fully appreciate how brightly it shone.
Before I start I feel I have to preach …
- Stop complaining about your body – move it, nourish it, and be grateful – it is the thing that carries you through your days
- Put down your phone, be present with the people you love
- Spend your time and your money on experiences, not things
- Say I love you more often, forgive faster
- If there is something you want to say then say it, something you want to do then do it
- Live each day as if it were your last – one day it will be
What I’ve come to realise is that there are no great mysteries in life, we humans over complicate things when really it’s all very simple. Give or take there is only really one true version of ourselves, and it is everybody else’s interpretation where the variances are.
I have no doubt each of you here have your own picture of Liz to paint; your own story to tell. I’ve heard so many of them these last few weeks. What I want to do here is to paint a very brief picture of my own.
I thought the easiest way to do that would be to share my unsent letter to Liz
Dearest Lizzie
Well you bugger, you called it. You said this would happen – 20 odd years ago you warned me of your failings in health and in love, predicting a premature and solitary end. On the former, while you undoubtedly got dealt a duff hand, I think your prediction was just luck – or bad luck as it turns out.
On love – you told me you wanted to be swept off your feet. Looking around - you are loved a hundred times over.
Did you live your life the way you did because of or in spite of what you thought you knew? I have little doubt it was the latter.
Over the course of a lifetime people come and go into the frame, a few remain indefinitely, and a few have a monumental impact. On rare occasions both happen and having a bestie like you for more than half of my adult life has been the most rare and incredible gift I could have been given.
What makes a bestie?
We travelled the world - saw some amazing places, skied so much we always ran out of leave by April, gut stuck in the world’s biggest sand dunes, your sympathy when I skewered my hand multiple times on a sea urchin in the Seychelles was, like any good medic, barely perceptible
We saw so many bands and musicians – festivals and stadium gigs to tiny venues and student union bars (The Killers). We watched some of our favourites grow from virtual unknowns to stadium fillers. In May this year you finally got me to see Hurts in Brixton, preceded as always with excellent food at some uber trendy London venue.
We spent Xmas’ together. We helped each other through some huge experiences – loss of family members, moving house, jobs, and country
Through you I met so many incredibly friends and I fell head over heels with all of your dogs (and I quite liked the cats too). The times I dog sat for you in my pristine little cottage with a white carpet, to come home to find pigeon had raided the pantry and eaten a bag of flour across every room
We had such a memorable day this summer in the forest – seeing the joy on your face to be out on your bike, the sun on your back, with lunch in the cafe and laughing until we cried.
So many incredible memories but perhaps the one thing I will never forget – before I moved overseas - were the years of nightly bedtime phone calls – on the landline - just to say a few words on what we had eaten for dinner, football, work, people, fears and dreams.
I don’t imagine I told you enough how much you mean to me, but I think you know.
Knowing and seeing how much you also mean to so many other people too makes me love you even more.
What a wonderful friend you are and will always be.